I was on the fence on whether I wanted to schedule a tithing settlement with my bishop. This would be the first time I would be a “part” tithe payer and I wasn’t sure I wanted to explain why. I decided to do it anyway. Some unfortunate events occurred in my family during December, so I was wanting to talk those issues out a bit. I hadn’t met with a bishop (except for tithing settlement) in over six years, so I figured my tithing over the years was worth at least a little bit of advice from him.
We mostly discussed my family issues, and I appreciated his insights and thoughtfulness. He took more time than he should have, with multiple people waiting outside his office. When we got to my tithing declaration, I said it was only a part tithe. He looked at me and said “okay, let’s try to do better next year”.
I then had to inform him that it was a part tithe on purpose and I wouldn’t be doing better next year. I wanted to blurt out that I was gay, but I held back. This was only supposed to be a five minute discussion and we were going on twenty. I said I had some issues with the church and I could discuss these with him when I got back from visiting family over the holidays. He agreed and out I went.
I still haven’t scheduled that appointment.